Mick Parker
taking offence to words uttered by others only adds credibility to their intent, if you react to stick/name calling within your own circle it shows that those particular words upset you & you'll be constantly beaten with them, however if people from outside the circle say something & you don't react you lose face.We're so socially dependent on each other, we worry about what everyone thinks of us, we NEED to fit in, "what does everyone else think i should do/be/say" its part of our ego/social structure, there are trigger words we think allow us act in certain ways, or are expected to by our circle . we're generally associated with many different circles & we move around try to adjust & balance our views/ personality/ outlook /acceptance of/ infuriated at, to fit in.